Monthly Archives: April 2021

Fuse, by Hollay Ghadery

I’m pleased to welcome long-time bookish friend on social media Marion Agnew to present her first guest review to this blog.

Marion Agnew lives in Northwestern Ontario, near Lake Superior. She’s published fiction and creative nonfiction; her 2019 personal essay collection, Reverberations: A Daughter’s Meditations on Alzheimer’s, was shortlisted for the Louise de Kiriline Lawrence award for nonfiction. She is currently at work on a novel.

Fuse by Hollay GhaderyFuse, by Hollay Ghadery, is a remarkable book. I’ve seen it labeled “memoir,” but I’d describe it as a collection of personal — very personal — essays. Organized around themes, the chapters include poetic fragments and reflections, narratives and insights, considerations and re-considerations. Instead of building to a narrative climax, this rich material forms a mosaic, a representation of a life that’s coherent but still in progress. Ghadery deftly supplements her lived experience with background information to give readers insight into a larger cultural context.

And culture, in many iterations, lies at the core of this book. She explores clashes around Iranian-Canadian identity, both in her own life — in her own mind/body and in her community — and in the varying degrees of closeness and understanding in the relationship between her English-Canadian mother and Iranian-Canadian father. She looks at what it’s like to be culturally Muslim in a theoretically secular (but really waning-Western-Christian) society, and how differently her two brothers respond to their family’s nominal exposure to Islam.

Her subjects range widely: Life in a family, with its sometimes well-meaning expectations. Life in a human body, with its imperfections and demands that change with time and our experiences (pregnancy, fitness or lack thereof, age) of it. Life in a country with loud demands for conformity around all of the above, plus definitions of beauty.

Ghadery takes us along in her many attempts to make sense of these demands, through binging/purging food, starving, running, booze, men, and cleaning. All are forms of her drive to create and maintain order in the chaos of life.

And she doesn’t shy away from naming what she finds, in herself and in others. Here’s an example, about how people line up a stack of papers or wipe down a kitchen counter, then say, “I’m so OCD”:

“I have to swallow hot anger when I hear these comments. My disease has taken over my life. It’s made it so I’ve considered taking my own life rather than live for one more moment in my own head. And when I wasn’t actively thinking about killing myself, I was passively trying to kill myself by drinking and using prescribed pharmaceuticals.”

She adds this energizing, satisfying summary, one I’ve wished for to combat “jokes” around dementia:

“Increasing dialogue to create more knowledge about mental illness is great. Casual appropriation of these illnesses is not.”

Yes, this book might be difficult for some people to read, but it will be transformative for others. In sharing her actions, Ghadery is searingly honest — yet her exposure isn’t performative. There’s no parade: “look at me, I’m drinking vodka at all hours, fighting with everyone, and quitting yet another job!”

Instead, she owns these actions and their role in her life. Many of them were physically harmful, all of them were attempts to lessen spiritual pain. And all are part of her, part of what she has fused to create herself—a complicated woman and skilled writer.

Learn more about Fuse by Hollay Ghadery [Guernica Editions (MiroLand)] here.

I liked it so much, I started one of my own

Toronto silent book club member (times two!) Beth Gordon offers this wonderful introduction to our latest silent book club meeting report. Lifelong reader, long-time book club aficionado, it is no surprise that she indefatigably attends and organizes multiple sbc meetings, for which we are all very grateful!

Silent book club member Beth Gordon with some of her reading, 99% Invisible City

I’ve always been a big reader and dedicated member of book clubs. With other demands on my time, I gradually became less enamoured of reading “what everybody else wanted to read”, so when Vicki invited me to a Silent Book Club meeting, I was intrigued enough to make the 45-minute trip to her neighbourhood on a Saturday morning. What I found at Press Books was a friendly and welcoming group of random people, some previously known to Vicki and Jo, and some who had discovered it in other ways.

At about the same time, another book club which I had joined about 20 years ago was ending, largely for logistical reasons. Inspired by my experiences at the East End SBC, I suggested to some of the members that we start a Silent Book Club in Midtown Toronto. Because it was being held in a private space, my condo dining room, I didn’t really publicize it, but there’s been good cross-pollination with the East End group and we have a healthy membership. I have noticed that it doesn’t matter how many people show up – we always manage to talk for at least an hour.

One of the benefits of having to switch to online meetings, of course, has been that geography has not been as much of a factor. A friend from Vancouver now joins us when she can, and one of the chief players in the previous book group can now join us as well, since she doesn’t have to travel. What hasn’t changed is the sense of community present in each meeting, and since there are fewer opportunities to meet in person, I think we’re all a bit more flexible about social chat as opposed to “sticking to business”.

There are many articles online about Silent Book Club which describe it as “a book club for introverts” because of the communal silent reading aspect. You’d have to ask an introvert if that rings true for them, but I respectfully disagree with that limiting description. The discussions at the beginning of each meeting are lively and opinionated, and have introduced me to a variety of books that I would likely never have found if left to my own devices. And speaking of devices, there is very much a live and let live atmosphere as to how we all consume our reading material. I am an ebook devotee, because I don’t like to leave home without a book and it’s much more convenient to have one on my phone. Others are fiercely loyal to their paper books, and several are audiobook devotees. Although I prefer to read with my eyes, I’ve swung towards audiobooks as walking companions during COVID lockdowns. I probably wouldn’t have gotten there as fast without the recommendations of my fellow SBC members. The debate rages about whether one is obligated to actually finish a book once started, but opinions may be changing as we all cope with “lockdown brain”.

So I’m grateful to Vicki for telling me about Silent Book Clubs and inviting me to join her SBC community. It has definitely enriched my life over the past couple of years, and has been a big part of my social life lately. Now that the weather is warming up, I’m hoping that safe meetings in the park will soon be an option again.

Sven and Jenn's bookshelves

Sven and Jenn's cat and books

Sue R's books

Sue R in the garden with a book

Jess' books

Vicki's books, next to her computer

Vicki with books and Jake the beagle-basset in the backyard

Once again, our latest combined reading list brims over with variety, diversity and range. The titles featured in each of our reports combine print and digital versions of books, along with audiobooks (which are indicated separately, with narrator/performer information where possible).

More book-related articles, resources, recommendations and more were offered by our members and/or came up during this meeting’s discussions and chat, including:

Boost your reading with fodder from our previous silent book club meeting reports (online and in-person incarnations) and book lists – you’ll find them here.

You can also check out links to articles, interviews and more here – some with San Francisco-based Silent Book Club founders Guinevere de La Mare and Laura Gluhanich, and some with us here in east end Toronto.

Learn more about silent book clubs via Guinevere and Laura’s Silent Book Club web site. You can find information on meetings happening around the world and close to where you live. Some clubs are currently on haitus, but many are running virtual meetings in different formats. Please feel free to contact me for more information about our club and its offerings.

Stay safe, stay well, keep your spirits up … and keep reading!

Silent book club members’ cups and tbr piles runneth over

That’s an awkward paraphrase of a lovely tweet from one of the attendees of our most recent pop-up silent book club zoom meetings. (We call them “pop-up” because we somewhat spontaneously announce these mid-week even meetings with just a few days’ notice, in addition to our regular monthly Saturday morning meetings … which used to be in person at our local coffee/book/vinyl shop, Press.)

Not only did the meeting runneth over with great book reviews and recommendations, discussion and laughter, but again, one advantage of our online gatherings is that our local neighbourhood/city borders are allowed to runneth over, too. This meeting, in addition to attendees from Toronto, we welcomed fellow readers from Edmonton, Alberta, Jersey City, New Jersey and our dear nighthawk with her squirrel sidekick in Pontypridd, Wales.

And oh, does the latest combined reading list from our group runneth over, too! The titles featured in each of our reports combine print and digital versions of books, along with audiobooks (which are indicated separately, with narrator/performer information where possible).

Vicki's silent book club books for April 14, 2021

Mary's silent book club books for April 14, 2021

Kath E's silent book club books for April 14, 2021

Lyla's silent book club books for April 14, 2021

Lyla's silent book club books for April 14, 2021

Sue R's silent book club books for April 14, 2021

More book-related articles, resources, recommendations and more were offered by our members and/or came up during this meeting’s discussions and chat, including:

Our previous silent book club meeting reports (online and in-person incarnations) and book lists are here.

You can also check out links to articles, interviews and more here – some with San Francisco-based Silent Book Club founders Guinevere de La Mare and Laura Gluhanich, and some with us here in east end Toronto.

Learn more about silent book clubs via Guinevere and Laura’s Silent Book Club web site. You can find information on meetings happening around the world and close to where you live. Some clubs are currently on haitus, but many are running virtual meetings in different formats. Please feel free to contact me for more information about our club and its offerings.

Stay safe, stay well, try to stay sane (especially if you live in Ontario), keep your spirits up … and keep reading!

Silent book club group looks to boost its young adult (YA) reading – the first of a series of review round-ups

Many thanks to Toronto silent book club member Sundus Butt for the first of what we hope will be an ongoing series of mini-reviews and previews of young adult (YA) titles and recommendations. Sundus introduces this first installment.

After the suggestion of reading more YA titles emerged from our Silent Book Club, Vicki kindly offered to post a list of YA books that I’ve enjoyed throughout the years. I love adult fiction, but the YA section (9–12 in particular) is also full of incredible writing. There is a sea of wonder, heartbreak, and warmth that feels specific to this age group and it’s why I keep returning to it.

This will be an ongoing list with more book titles posted at the end of each month.

I sincerely hope you enjoy some of the titles that I mention.

Happy reading!

 

The Golden Compass by Philip Pullman

The Golden Compass by Philip Pullman

The Golden Compass by Philip Pullman (10+)

The sight filled the northern sky; the immensity of it was scarcely conceivable. As if from Heaven itself, great curtains of delicate light hung and trembled. Pale green and rose-pink, and as transparent as the most fragile fabric, and at the bottom edge a profound and fiery crimson like the fires of Hell, they swung and shimmered loosely with more grace than the most skillful dancer. Lyra […] was moved by it: it was so beautiful it was almost holy; she felt tears prick her eyes, and the tears splintered the light even further into prismatic rainbows.

I’m beginning this list with a well-known book, but it’s one of my all-time favourites. I can’t fully explain how much it meant to come across Lyra when I was a young reader (strong female protagonists were rare in YA at the time). She was a complex jumble of fierceness, intelligence, and vulnerability. Following her on an adventure to rescue her kidnapped friend, Roger, was a delight. The story is populated with brilliant characters and an amazing world that is at once familiar and distant. The fantastical elements of dæmons, witches, and armoured bears are melded perfectly with real places and objects. Everything from this book has stayed with me as I’ve grown up.

Front Desk by Kelly Yang

Front Desk by Kelly Yang

Front Desk by Kelly Yang (9–12)

“Why put a scary part in the middle of a beautiful piece?” I remember asking my piano teacher.
“Because life is scary sometimes, little one,” he had said.

After immigrating to the U.S. from China, Mia and her parents have had a difficult time. But they think their luck has turned when they get a chance to run a motel.

Based on Yang’s own experiences growing up, the story touches on a large range of issues from racism to exploitation of immigrant workers to poverty. The seriousness of what happens is skillfully balanced with the warmth of Mia and other characters. The overarching message is one of love and hope in the face of hardship, and it’s what makes Front Desk a book with such great heart.

The Crossover by Kwame Alexander

The Crossover by Kwame Alexander

The Crossover by Kwame Alexander (9+)

[…] ever since I watched the clip of Dad […] soaring through the air—his long twisted hair like wings carrying him high above the rim—I knew one day I’d need my own wings to fly.

This novel written in verse follows twin brothers Josh and Jordan as they navigate basketball, school, crushes, and family life. With sparse text, Alexander is able to convey so much and create full characters you empathize with. Everything is channelled through Josh’s perspective, and his voice is entirely convincing as a teen dealing with his life changing on and off the court. The Crossover has a large focus on basketball, but it’s used to explore the struggle of growing up and the love within a family. It’s a very short read, but an engaging one.

The Breadwinner by Deborah Ellis

The Breadwinner by Deborah Ellis

The Breadwinner by Deborah Ellis (teen)

Parvana was fresh out of hope. […] She crawled onto the toshak, covered herself with a quilt and resolved to stay there forever.
For two days she stayed on the toshak. “This is what the women in our family do when we’re sad,” she said to Mrs. Weera.
“They don’t stay there forever,” Mrs. Weera said. “They get up again, and they fight back.”

The above describes The Breadwinner in a nutshell. The story is primarily about the defiance and strength of women and girls in Taliban-occupied Afghanistan.

When 11-year-old Parvana’s father is arrested, the family decides to disguise Parvana as a boy so she can go outdoors to work and pick up food (women aren’t allowed outside without a male chaperone).

The story is short, but it’s a hard-hitting, unvarnished look at life under the Taliban regime. But from Parvana’s daily deception to a subversive magazine organized by Parvana’s mom and family friend, Mrs. Weera, the focus is on resilience and the incredible things people can do in the face of adversity.

When You Reach Me by Rebecca Stead

When You Reach Me by Rebecca Stead

When You Reach Me by Rebecca Stead (9–12)

I walked up the hill, where the sunlight seemed to touch everything like it was a hyper kid running all over a toy store—it bounced off the dirty metal lampposts, the shiny brass awning posts, even the sunglasses of a woman walking her dogs with a cup of coffee in one hand. Everything shined.

This book is a mesh of real life with slight mystery and science fiction. The story follows Miranda, a sixth grader living in New York City as she starts to receive cryptic anonymous messages about the future.

This book is so well crafted. The plot, the pacing, and the revelations are all balanced out beautifully in a story based on single moments having huge unforeseen consequences.

And the main characters are all very real with some goodness, humour, and flaws. (The interactions between Miranda, her mom, and her mom’s boyfriend, Richard, are heartwarming.) But it’s Miranda’s growth that’s the highlight of the story, as she learns to look at the people around her and realize they aren’t always what they seem.

Word Nerd by Susin Nielsen

Word Nerd by Susin Nielsen

Word Nerd by Susin Nielsen (teen)

It dawned on me that this was what it was like to have friends. People who liked you for you. People you didn’t have to try to impress.

Set in Vancouver, this story follows 12-year-old Ambrose who is homeschooled because he’s been bullied so badly. Ambrose is not a “normal” kid. He doesn’t wear cool clothes, he has no filter when he speaks (which annoys children and adults alike), and he loves Scrabble.

Word Nerd is full of unique characters that you feel for from Ambrose himself to his well-meaning, but overprotective mom to the kind landlords and their grown son Cosmo. All these people (and more) help Ambrose in his search for acceptance, and he realizes that some of the best friendships are found in unexpected places.

Brown Girl Dreaming by Jacqueline Woodson

Brown Girl Dreaming by Jacqueline Woodson

Brown Girl Dreaming by Jacqueline Woodson (10+)

How amazing these words are that slowly come to me.
How wonderfully on and on they go.

Will the words end, I ask whenever I remember to.

Nope, my sister says, all of five years old now, and promising me

infinity.

This book explores Woodson’s childhood in verse. It’s a short read, but paints a full and vivid picture of being torn between the north and south (Woodson grew up in both New York and South Carolina), learning about the civil rights movement, navigating religion, falling in love with stories (in particular making them up), trying to forge your own identity, and cherishing the simple joys of a family. Woodson clearly loves language and writing, and it shines through from beginning to end.